“Misogyny is a systematic and institutionalized form of bigotry and oppression that permeates through every aspect of our society in ways that can be obvious or more subtle (rape culture and its perpetuation can be obvious or subtle and can sometimes be difficult for a man who has never felt its effects to detect, but either way it’s horrifying.) Misandry is not systematic and it is not institutionalized. The distrust or hatred of men is a rational reaction to misogyny, which is ubiquitous and static. Statements like “can’t we all just be friends?” assume that there exists a level playing field. Until this level playing field truly exists, statements like these can easily be dismissed as childish, naive, shallow, frivolous and boring.”—My response to a man asking “can’t we all just be friends?” and “isn’t misandry just as bad as misogyny?” (via grrrlstudies)
When I was 16 years old, I was raped at knife-point by a stranger. Not having a clue how to handle it, I decided to confide first of all in my pastor. While I was literally still bleeding from the attack, he told me (and I quote) “It’s too bad that you didn’t force him to kill you instead. That way you could have at least died a virgin.” That was the sum total of his “advice” to me—not, “Oh, you should go to the police,” or “Oh, I’m so sorry that happened to you,” or anything that might have been even remotely helpful anywhere on this planet.
Excuse me while I go fucking throw up. That any person EVER would think “virginity” is worth dying for is utterly disgusting.
The sad moment when you realise how alone you actually are. That no one ever messages you on facebook first or texts you first or anything. So it gets to the point where you don't want to put in the effort with people who don't put in any effort for you so you end up spending your life at home, never going anywhere.